This week has been exceedingly long. Work has been very busy. But even with it being nonstop, it felt so slow. And it seems like the more we try to help Little Miss, the more her mother tries to push against us helping her. She took her out of school early last Thursday, didn't send her in on Monday, school was closed on Tuesday for Election day, then took her out early again yesterday and today there was no school for Veteran's Day. In those days she missed class, she missed 3 exams, end of quarter reviews and test prep. Her parents also had a meet the teacher scheduled for this past Monday but her mother didn't go. Her dad found out that she just flat out didn't do a project (another one), this time in Social Studies. When I asked her why, she said "Because I didn't feel like it." Where am I supposed to go with that? Her mother doesn't enforce any of the same values that we have here like 3 square meals a day, daily showers, exercise, a normal sleep pattern (with enough hours of sleep and a healthy sleep environment), and a good education, amongst other things. We are just trying to do what we think is best for Little Miss as we approach each new issue. I am trying to entice her to try a little harder by making a monetary deal with her based on her grades for the second quarter. I told her dad and he was good with it. I mentioned it to her grandmother and she looked at me like 'How dare you?' but simply said "Well that'll never work, but whatever!". Really? I tried to really keep a positive outlook on our situation as much as possible. But it really seems that now I am home the same hours as my in-laws, all the problems are coming out. She really just seems to think that she can do whatever she wants, but they are not her kids. I can't do or say anything too much about Little Miss because, technically, she isn't my daughter. However, when she reprimands my son, that's a whole other can of worms. It's all a very difficult wire to walk. Always being afraid of stepping on this persons toes or that persons toes.
It's a difficult position to be in. Trying to raise your kid and someone elses kid who you have been raising for almost 5 years and love like your own, but in someone elses house. So not only do you have to try to not step on the homeowners toes or let your kids piss them off, but they feel entitled to say and do whatever they want with your kids. But then the one isn't actually yours, so you have to make sure not to piss off the actual parent. So instead of being able to raise my kids how I want to, I have to raise them walking on egg shells. It's really upsetting. I am a great parent. So is my fiance. Sure we may make mistakes sometimes, but so does everyone. I give my son a pretty good amount of freedom, so when he gets in trouble for something I wouldn't punish him for by someone who isn't his parent, is really frustrating. BUT I can't say anything because 1, it's not my family and 2, its not my house.
I can't wait to be able to be back on our own again. I try to tell my fiance how unhappy I am, but I don't want to bring him down either. Just remembering that this is something we are just going through right now and it will be better eventually it keeping me going, but just barely sometimes. Everyone has good days and bad. I can't pick and choose everyone that is in my life like I wish I could. If I could, I'd like to think it'd be a lot better. But then I am sure there would be something else that I complain about so.... I guess I just gotta work with the cards I'm dealt.
Thanks for reading.
Peace & Love,
Emily
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